User blog comment:BiGnORoFaN!!!/Kanae or Karren?/@comment-27247962-20170331100349

But BigNoro fan...

Comparing your transgender friends to someone like Mutsuki is much more hurtful, I would think. If they're female by sex & identify as male, do you see them straddle another male and shout out: "Oh i'm being so female right now, so embarrassing"...? I might be completely naïve about the ways of transgender people, but seeing how important their identification is for them, I wouldn't think they'd do things that could jeopardize how they identify. And you can be sure that the lucky guy being straddled is seeing the person as female.

Mutsuki & Kanae can wish to be adressed with male pronouns & we'll do that when greeting them, but besides the common decency, people will draw their own conclusions. If they say they identify as male, but act suprisingly feminine, then people will label them as females who want to be called male for whatever reason.

So in that sense there's nothing to worry about. People will use the wished for pronouns, but don't be suprised if that is just an empty show of respect/decency.

You also have to realize that we know a lot more about these characters & their backgroundstory, mindset, way of thinking & whatnot. Much more then we know about transgender acquaintances we meet in reality. The fact that we in real life don't know everything that went behind the decision of wanting to be adressed in a certain way, makes it easier to abide by. That lack of narrative isn't the case with Mutsuki & Kanae, which creates doubt about their real desires & wishes. Doubt that wanting to be called 'male' is not one of them.

I personally consider it wrong to compare a friend or what you know of trans-people in general with fictional cases. What you can do is comparing the believed transgender term/definition/objectively known facts with the fictional character's case & see if he/she can be defined as such.

Because what many people are doing now, is putting a patent/label on Mutsuki's & Kanae's head based on their subjective experiences & knowledge about the topic. "You have to adress..., because I know a friend..." , "You have to adress..., because transgender people tell me...",...

What the dictionary tells you or scientific research, are the only valid ways to conclude this. Leave the politically correct gibberish to the side.