Talk:Eto Yoshimura/@comment-173.212.82.109-20160526184457/@comment-27247962-20160527223510

I'm adding something to Blue Luna's post about Kaneki and Eto having severe parental neglect as a common experience.

They both wanted/craved (almost) their parents attention and love. But in the end both went down the opposite direction.

Starting with Kaneki, since his story is the one most ingrained in our memory. He wanted his mothers love. This didn't change when his mother abused him. He tried to wall those experiences of abuse in the deepest part of his brain and still see his mother as the greatest person he ever knew, still craving her love.

Eto on the other hand, tries to similarly impress and make her father proud. She tried this by becoming a writer and she succeeded, unlike Kaneki, who wasn't able to please his mother at all. Eto is confronted by, not a broken father doing his hardest to keep it together and search for his lost daughter, but a father that has found a new life and left the past for what it is. This made her boil inside and even to this day, she loaths her father for moving on and not putting her as his priority.

~Sidenote: Here you see Eto's affinity for egoism (and her sadistical side). She should get what she desires, the moment she desires it and the way she desires it. (sadistical, because I took that scene in as if she loathed him for being happy and wanted him to be miserable when she arrived. She wanted him to be miserable, so she make him smile again and wind him around her finger. He should only have eyes for her and she should've been his only source of happiness in his life. That's how it felt for me. She gets all excited by the idea that someone would be miserable without her and that might be a reason why she likes to meddle with love and machinate it in a way that it can only end in a tragedy, a miserable end. Ex. Karen.)

And that's where a selfless person like Kaneki would be a very compatible match, because being selfless would be the most important characteristic needed to get along with someone like Eto and even feel affection towards her.

They can give each other the love they crave for. Eto craves unconditional love, one where the persons only concern, should be her, called agape. Where as Kaneki craves for unconditional love along the lines of what a parent or a good friend would give, called storge. (Phileo could also apply for Kaneki, very much so, since he has an intense craving for a 'friend' + phileo livens up someone that craves for agape love)

And love is all about filling in the gaps of the other person.

To end it on a another parellel. I'd say 'The Beauty and The Beast' lovestory played out in a more tragic way, is what I imagine Kaneki and Eto's lovestory to be, if there will ever be a seperate universe where they both get together that is. (Or 'The Hunchback of Notre Dame')