Talk:Tooru Mutsuki/@comment-142.105.20.200-20150124050012/@comment-10733658-20150125094325

Anon 142.105.20.200,

This will be my final reply to you since I've asked you to back off. But I think you should be aware how many INCREDIBLY offensive things you managed to shove into a single comment. Please be aware of that going forward in replying to other users or taking part in discussions about Gender or Sexual Orientation, since it seems you have multiple misconceptions.

1. Non-Transgender people have absolutely no business in defining what it means to be Transgender. That means neither one of us has any business in defining it, or stating what is and isn't "True Trans" because it is not our identity, nor our community.

2. Surgery is not a requirement to be Transgender. It is an incredibly complicated issue, and again people have absolutely zero business interferring in something so incredibly personal.

3. Sexual Orientation =/= Gender Identity. Two completely different things, so do not attempt to make them the same thing. Sexual Orientation is about who you find romantically and sexually attractive. Gender Identity is about your personal identity in relation to your body, social concepts of Masculinity and Femininity, and self-perception. So you can be Trans and gay, or Trans and straight, or Trans and bisexual. Or whatever. Apples and Oranges.

4. Ambiguity is not uncommon, both in real life and in fiction. From reading about Transgender issues and talking to people that are Transgender, I've learned that questioning themselves or self-doubt are normal. Especially early on, or before they come out. Identity is a tricky thing, whether you are straight and cisgendered or LGBT.

But I am done. I suggest maybe you actually take some time to read on the subject before running your mouth any further. Might I suggest the following resources:

http://www.apa.org/topics/lgbt/transgender.aspx

http://www.glaad.org/transgender

I hope this will help to clarify any misunderstandings you have.

Now I am bowing out, and do not wish to chat with you any further.

-Harostar, who is not "-kun".