Talk:Kuki Urie/@comment-199.48.180.30-20151220054437

read this post on tumblr and it's so true:

We know Ishida loves going deep into his characters’ personalities, and psychosis for that matter. To summarize Urie’s character into one word such as ‘envious’ is to undervalue his dept. We don’t know much about Urie but we do know this: Urie and our good old Kaneki both had/have Inferiority Complex–a psychological sense of inferiority, wholly or partly unconscious. It makes them constantly feel they’re weak, unworthy, unimportant, unnecessary, and never good enough for anything, including being loved by anyone no matter how hard they try. This is mostly caused by being abused/bullied as a child–being told over and over again that the person is not worth anything they want because they’re incapable of doing anything and they don’t have the brain or body for it. That they don’t have the right to wish for anything because they’re just not worth it. We don’t know much about Urie, only that his father died in the line of duty. We know nothing about his childhood… unfortunately, knowing Ishida and judging by Urie’s characteristics, to think that he had a healthy childhood is naive.

What Urie obviously suffered from throughout the entire :re manga is superiority complex, which is a a psychological defense mechanism in which a person’s feelings of superiority counter or conceal his feelings of inferiority. He constantly judges others because deep down he feels they’re better/in better situations. He pushes himself hard and harder to get better not because he’s better than others as he claims, but because he’s always felt he’s not enough. He didn’t like Saiko because everyone cared for her even though she used to stay home and not even work. He hated Shirazu because Haise and others praised him and Shirazu wasn’t as intelligent as Urie. He hated Haise mostly because the other Qs loved Haise passionately, and because Urie was the only one in the group Haise never really got along with.

I thought Haise just didn’t know how to treat Urie properly mostly because Urie’s rudeness and signs of superiority complex confused him, but from what he told Urie, maybe-consciously or unconsciously–he just didn’t try to break down the wall Urie had made because Urie reminded him of himself and his rudeness didn’t help either. Urie had to be forced to get out of his box–that’s something Mutsuki and Shirazu tried so hard to do and eventually did but Haise didn’t.

A treatment to inferiority complex is to participate in group activities, which is very difficult for someone like Kaneki or Urie, since mixing with other people is something they don’t like. The longer inferiority complex stays the worse it gets. Urie was getting better. He was slowly recovering. He wasn’t constantly judging people in his mind. He’d stopped questioning everyone’s character or activities, or even orders. He’d started caring for others, even risking his life and wishes for them.

Kaneki basically pushed Urie down the edge, even much lower than the place where he’d started. This is even after Kaneki suffered from the very same tackle, wounded by the very same words: Jason made him suffer mentally and emotionally and blamed Kaneki for everything he did to Kaneki. Gave him impossible choices like choosing between people’s lives and blamed him for their death. As a result Kaneki–who’d always felt inferior–became obsessed over gaining more and more power, which resulted in him losing sight of himself and his goals and eventually tripping to his downfall and realizing only too late he let his abuser play him until the end.

Now he did the same thing to Urie, which is why I don’t understand how some people think Urie deserved it. I’m telling you right now that had it been Saiko or Mutsuki who said Kaneki/Haise should have come back earlier, he’d have never said those words, but the way he said it was merely to wound Urie, because deep down he knows the best way to hurt someone suffering from Inferiority Complex is blaming them for the death of one of the very few people that person ever got close to.

Urie heard this from a ‘superior’, and the same person he always envied for everything. What happens to Urie now will be most likely what happened Kaneki: he will push himself harder and harder in order to become stronger (and never feel like he’s strong enough) to the point of breaking where he can never be fixed. I wonder if Kaneki will think about this and if this will come back to hunt him.