Talk:Ken Kaneki/@comment-26967758-20151213110854

Honestly... I don't get why people are calling him dick for saying what he did to Urie. Was it cold? Yes. Was it neccessary though? You bet. It's like Arima giving Kaneki tough love, this is the same case (in Kaneki's own way minus beating him to near death).

In a sense, Matsuri was right, you can't afford to waste time grieving while enemies are still around, but that's because he's used to it by now, and he's not an emotional person to begin with. Urie on the other hand, had only lost his father and he couldn't do anything about that. This is the first time he's been shown just how powerless he was. And he wanted to take it out on Kaneki, you can tell by just his anger.

Kaneki is just being blunt now. Does that mean he's a dick? No, but it wasn't exactly the appropriate moment to mention it yet Urie provoked him. He still went and hugged Shirazu's body. Urie was just trying to guilt trip him and he's gone through enough, finally being true to himself and he's not about to put more burden on himself like he's always done by shouldering everything and not doing what he wants.

And him quoting what Yamori said to him? He's come to terms with it, despite the fact that he may have rejected it at first and tried to become strong by cannibalising to make up for it, he's realised now that doing that is just going to destroy himself without getting anything done in the long run for what he hopes to accomplish. He might not have liked it, but it is still the truth and he's come to terms with it now. Being able to speak about it means he's overcome and came to terms with his own pain. He's proven himself that he's become stronger.

And why didn't Tooru or Saiko get the treatment? Because they weren't asking for a reaction like Urie was. You can't let anger take you over and just hold grudges, and I think that's the purpose of Kaneki saying it. He tried being nice as Haise in the past to Urie, yet he was only disrespected. So what better way to get Urie to stop blaming other people? By making him realise it's his own fault (even if it's not exactly the right way to put that either), it'll help him stop blaming things.